He thanks his mom for cooking, but says “fuck you” for not wanting to talk. For the first time we’ve seen, Ted opens up. Returning to his apartment, Dottie has made a home-cooked meal for Ted.
It’s time for Ted to exorcise his own demons. Jamie doesn’t know it, and it’s better he doesn’t - because he did this for himself, and not his flawed father.
His dad is watching the game in rehab, and he’s profoundly proud of his son. The viewers’ first thought is naturally that Jamie’s dad has died, but no time is wasted as we get our answer. His dad’s drinking buddies clink flasks, quipping that “his dad would have been proud.”
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Walking off the pitch to raucous applause from the fans who once hated him, Jamie is free of his demons. It all clicks, Jamie returns to the pitch with his characteristic swagger, and scores the game-winner before his body gives out. Don’t do it for him, do it for you, because freeing that burden is what breaks the cycle and allows a frail, damaged ego to grow again. Ted offers Jamie the sage advice he’s unable to take himself: Forgive his dad. Ted recognizes the trauma and in the middle of the biggest game of either’s career, he takes a knee to play sideline psychologist, telling Jamie that “hurt people hurt people,” knowing for experience that we can either choose to keep perpetuating the cycle and pass on our flaws to the next generation - or try to fix them and become better, for everyone around us, and more importantly, ourselves. It’s unclear how much of this injury is physical, and how much is psychological. With Tartt hurt, Ted makes the bold decision to play a man down in the hopes of Jamie recovering and returning to the pitch. One last lingering piece of trauma, the motivation needed to prove him wrong once more - but dad isn’t there. He’s not fixed, and throughout the game he keeps looking to the stands in hope of finding his dad. “You’re not lost,” his mom says, “you’re just not sure what direction you’re going in yet.”Ī visit to see his mom isn’t the panacea Jamie hoped it would be. He lays on the sofa, head in him mom’s lap, and reveals that he feels soulless without the motivation to infuriate his father. Jamie’s relationship with his mom is infantilizing, as can be the case when it comes to abuse. This superficial, rather sad relationship is juxtaposed with that of Jamie - who takes Roy and Keeley to meet his mother after they follow him on a walk down the streets of Manchester. They keep telling him how great his mom is, how she raised such a wonderful man, and Ted keeps bristling at this praise because he sees right through it all and hates the parts of his mom that he’s inherited, while perpetuating the same cycle. This is fascinating to watch, because everyone in Ted’s orbit loves Dottie.
It’s a suit of armor he uses to stop people getting close, because the biggest fear in his life is being emotionally destroyed again, the same way he was when his father committed suicide. Dottie hides all emotion under a veneer of jokes of relentless positivity, which we know is Ted’s worst personality trait. Trauma manifested itself as mirroring when it comes to Ted. The trick is to be well adjusted enough to spot the flaws early and avoid them formatively as a teenager, but trauma often prevents this. Everyone lionizes their parents as sees them as paragons of stability, and everyone is let down as we transition from seeing a parent as a super hero, to a human with the same flaws and struggles we all have. Parent/child adult relationships take wandering, circuitous routes before hopefully reaching a point of equilibrium. The second is Jamie, who has become a lost, soulless mess as he faces the reality of returning to Manchester and seeing his father. Ted is trapped between feelings of duty and disgust as we meet Dottie Lasso, Ted’s mother - who surprised her son with an unannounced trip. There are two driving forces in “Mom City,” wrapped in Richmond’s approach to facing Manchester City in the biggest match in team history. The penultimate episode of Ted Lasso is a study on how we cope with childhood trauma, how we move past it, and how we reconcile it with those who saw it, but didn’t have the capacity to help. If you’re lucky it’s minor, and has a very small impact on your life - but not everyone is so fortunate. On some level I think everyone has a little carried trauma from childhood.
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